When You Should And Shouldn’t Spy on Your Kids | Parents’ Guide

Being constantly surrounded by temptation in all of its various forms; it is quite hard for a kid to just be a kid these days. With 9 years old having their own smartphones, 6-year-olds owning the latest tablets in line and 11-year-olds with Facebook accounts, it would be the understatement of the century to say that the children these days live in a completely different type of world than we did.

When we went outside and played catch in the playground or skipped rope in the backyard, these kids stay in and slay zombies on their Xbox while gorging on ultra-fattening fast-food. And there is no way to change that, unfortunately, exposure faced by kids these days.

However, you can make sure these digital kids stay safe in this digital world and the best way to do this is using the spy apps.

You Should Spy If

As Taylor Swift eloquently puts, “Cause when you’re fifteen and somebody tells you they love you, you’re gonna believe them….” which dear parents all around the globe, gives to ample reason to snoop through your fifteen-year-olds, a sixteen-year-olds and 13-year-olds mobile phone. Not because you don’t trust them or anything, but because they trust others too quickly and take that one leap of faith that most adults would shy away from without thinking much about it.

You can keep an eye on your child using spy software, whether he/she likes it or not, if:

  • You discover something incriminating in your child’s bedroom.
  • Their behavior seems irrational or suspicious.
  • Responsibilities no longer matter to them.
  • They do not abide by their curfew.
  • They are doing badly at school.
  • Your kids hang out with suspicious people.
  • They are not listening to you.
  • They are drinking, smoking or taking drugs.
  • Your child rebel in every way they can.
  • They misuse the privileges you have bestowed on them.

If your child is caught red-handed doing any of the above, you have every right to go “My roof, my rules” on them. At this point, go ahead and check their room, install spy software on their computers, tablets, and smartphone whether you have their consent or not. In fact, do whatever you want to do to keep them in line. Make them realize that privacy is not a right, it is a privilege they have to earn.

You Shouldn’t Spy If

You should not spy on your child, under any circumstances, if he or she:

  • Meets his/her responsibilities.
  • Comes home before curfew.
  • Does not lie to you about his/her whereabouts.
  • Hangs out with people he/she told you they’d be with.
  • Does well in school.
  • Is praised by his/her teachers.
  • Doesn’t show any sign of sneaky behavior or participates in suspicious activities.

If your child does all of the above, you do not have to worry about them or spy on them. Still, if you still think that spying on them is a good idea “just to make sure they are safe”, remember that there will be unsavory results like “rebellious” and “sneaky” behavior if you are ever caught.

And your child will be right to behave so. When your child has given you no reason to be suspicious about anything and still you spy on them instead of rewarding them for their good behavior, don’t you think that they would feel betrayed? Therefore, keep in mind that even though you are allowed to keep an eye on your child, do not go overboard and hurt the relationship you have with your child due to misplaced paranoia.

Conclusion

Once again, it is worth mentioning that giving your child the privacy to keep whatever goes on in their rooms to themselves is a privilege. A privilege they can be stripped off at a moment’s notice if they violate your trust.

But, also keep in mind that they are children, and they will make mistakes. Thus, it is worth mentioning here that when you look through their computers and their phones they should know that you are doing this because you love them and this is the price they have to pay for hurting them. They should also know that this is a temporary condition, one that they can fix by mending their ways and regaining your trust once again.

About the Author:

Aline is a technology blogger and editor. She loves to write about children, social media privacies, and mobile online safety. To know more about her, follow her on Twitter @alinecarrara7.

Vinayak

Vinayak

Vinayak is a young aspiring blogger and the founder of eideahub. He aims to reach his creative goals one step at a time and is extremely fond of anything related to technology, career, and health. He likes to share relevant info with all the latest updates.
Vinayak

Vinayak

Vinayak is a young aspiring blogger and the founder of eideahub. He aims to reach his creative goals one step at a time and is extremely fond of anything related to technology, career, and health. He likes to share relevant info with all the latest updates.

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